If
you're floundering in the bedroom and your
girlfriend is moaning for all the wrong reasons,
these tips will point you in the right direction.
Gentlemen! If you want to get your girl moaning
for real instead of faking it, you're going to have
to put a bit of work in. Firstly, a male can achieve
orgasm within 2 - 3 minutes when stimulated by
another partner. Where as a female can take up to 15
minutes to climax.
If you know for a fact that you can't keep going
for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets
face it, if you're doing that, you're having sex,
not making love) then you are going to have to
stimulate her body with foreplay instead.
Now before you panic and freak out, all of this
can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee
you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND
you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.
The top 5 female erogenous zones
The neck
Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female
neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of
her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder
to below her ear (while at the same time massaging
it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up
and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be
breathing heavily in a very short period of time.
The ear lobes
Sucking ear lobes isn't for everyone. Some girls
get the tickles when you do it but others simply
adore it. While you're there you can whisper sweet
nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what
she likes so this is a good way to do it if you're
fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her
ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be
very soothing.
The nipples
On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the
female nipples become hard and sit up right when
stimulated with your tongue. Don't forget to give
both breasts even attention and also kiss down in
between her breasts as you work your way between
both of them. If she hasn't grabbed your head by
this stage and held it into her bosom, something's
badly wrong.
The belly button
Working your way down her body, the belly button
is another area you should stimulate before full
intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and
tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate
through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate
her G spot.
The G Spot
Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the
female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the
chance arises, ask her if she has already found her
G spot and let her point you in the right direction.
As a general guide, most female G spots can be
found on the roof of the vagina (that's the side
closest to her stomach.). It's about the size and
shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4
inches in.
Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating
this area with your tongue or fingers as a female
can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don't
be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get
elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be
noted that not all females have a G spot, so don't
be alarmed if you both can't find it. As you have
seen there are plenty of other areas of the female
body that can be stimulated in the art of love
making in order to help her climax.
Doing a combination of all these things will
leave her begging for more and you will be a better
lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out
what works and what doesn't as everyone is not the
same.
As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the
stimulation of her whole body and not just simple
penetration. Taking the time to show care and
attention to her needs will put you so far above any
other lovers, she may have had that you may find it
tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)
I hope this article helps your love life get back
on track and that you become better and more
confident at making love and not just having sex.
Above all else, if you want to become a better
lover, ask your partner what they like and what they
want you to do to them. Not only will you help them
get their rocks off quicker, you'll also show that
you are thinking about their needs and they in turn
will think about yours. This will create a much
better experience than if both parties are
concentrating on what each can get out of the
experience in a very selfish way.
Until next time.
Short note about the author
Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time
webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's
checking out new dating sites that appear on the
net.
