Lovemaking
should be the ultimate feeling for both of you, but
sometimes it can feel less than special. To help you
get the most from the moment here are six things
which you should avoid doing wile making the beast
with two backs.
1) Calling out another person's name
Unless you have both agreed to role-play
beforehand this is a definite no-no and it's very
likely to get you into trouble with your partner. If
you are extremely comfortable together then dropping
it in could bring some extra kink into lovemaking as
part of a spontaneous role-play, but no matter how
close you are, if it comes out too naturally it will
always hurt your partner emotionally.
2) Ask if he's cum yet
This can upset men for two main reasons; firstly
that it immediately gives the impression that you
are just waiting for the experience to be over (If
you are he's not going to finish any faster if he
knows that, it'll deflate his ego), and secondly
because for a man much of the sexual act is based
around orgasm, and the idea that you don't even know
his intense moment of pleasure can take from the
moment.
3) Excessive groaning
There can be few things that bring greater
pleasure than hearing your lover groaning with
pleasure, but if you make too much extra noise to
try to make your partner feel good you risk the
opposite - giving the impression that you are purely
putting on a show and possibly removed from the act.
4) Continuing watching TV / Reading a book
Come on, your lover wants to feel you are shaking
their world, not that you would rather be watching
your favourite soap opera.
5) Pretending they are a specific character.
Role-play can be fun for both partners, and many
couples enjoy enacting their policeman/woman, nurse
or other fantasies with their partner. You may find
your partner isn't quite so comfortable if they
think you are imagining them as your childhood pinup
or ex-partner, though.
6) Taking it too seriously
If you accidentally do any of the above then make
sure you do not do this! Nearly every situation in
bed can be laughed off. Which of us has never
tripped or fallen over during lovemaking, if you
take it too seriously it'll spoil the mood, laugh
together and sharing the laughter will make you feel
closer.
