Getting
over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but
with a little effort and the desire to be more
outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can
definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know
that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are
typically always much worse than the reality of the
situation.
Below, I've listed 12 simple steps to overcoming
your shyness. These aren't magic solutions, but
practice these steps and over time, your shyness
will fade away and you will be left wondering what
all the fuss was about in the first place.
Step 1. Fake it until you make it!
This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In
other words; mimic or act like someone whom you
admire and has all the personality traits you wish
to have. This is a great way to start teaching
yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in
their shoes and play out real life situations as
though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it
does work!
Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.
Be honest with yourself. What are your real
fears? What do you think people see when they talk
with you? Answering these questions will help guide
you into separating reality with what you are
mistakenly perceiving it to be.
Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.
Yes, this will take effort on your part by
reading books on the subject or listening to
motivational tapes, but it works!
Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.
Daily affirmations and positive mind influence
can be very powerful tools to improve yourself.
Again, this takes work but the power to change your
shyness to confidence can come simply from saying
things to yourself every day like "I like myself!"
or "I am a winner!"
Step 5. Role play situations that make you
anxious.
This may sound silly but take time out alone to
Play-act situations that you get really nervous
about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or
girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person
that you wish to be. This play-acting will send
messages to your sub-consciousness and help your
inner-self change.
Step 6. Dress to impress.
Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron
those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words,
always look your best. This does amazing things to
help you feel better about yourself and overcome
shyness.
Step 7. Positive goals.
Start projects in life that make you feel good.
Start a personal project, totally clean up your
house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How
can these things help you with overcoming shyness?
Simple - by working on things that make you feel
good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you
on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of
shyness.
This goes along the same lines as using daily
affirmations or by reading self help books. By
changing your perception of shyness instead of
having a negative attachment to the word, you will
then help re-create your outlook on it.
Step 9. Learn to take risks.
How many times did you just want to go up to
someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or
how they impressed you with their clothes. As a
daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up
to a total stranger and say something nice. It could
be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty
girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not
worry about the outcome, do not worry about what
they say, just do it!
Step 10. Face your fears!
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that
everyone gets rejected at one point or another,
everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally.
Use it as a tool.
Step 11. Get those dates.
A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome
shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is
the most successful way to rid your shyness but this
takes a lot of nerve so date 'at your own risk'.
Step 12. Last but not least, be honest!
Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest
with them. You will not believe just how nervous and
shy the other person is as well. By just telling
them you feel the same will help to put them at ease
too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure
to go much better.
