If
you are constantly fighting and getting into
conflicts with the love of your life, and are always
wondering why your girlfriend or wife can never
understand you, you can do something to bring back
the passion in your relationship with her. The
results you want may not be instant; in fact,
anything which promises you overnight success is
always bogus. However, your desired results will
come surely and certainly, just as the sun would
rise from the East every morning, if you would put
in the right effort, patience and concentration.
Here are some simple strategies to get you
started, and before long, you should be able to
break the barriers of stubborness, of blindness, and
of bitterness in your relationship with your loved
one, and replace them with feelings of affection,
warmth, laughter and love for you.
1) BE the solution
Find out for yourself and understand the reasons
which bring about all the fightings, arguments, and
even break-up. You have the power to turn the
relationship around to your favor and create that
long lasting and harmonious relationship which you
so desire. Whatever difficulties or obstables you
are facing in your relationship right now, know that
if you change your attitude, your outer environment
will change as well. Be the solution, and start
watching miracles happen.
2) It's about being the Right man
If you take your relationship seriously, are sure
you want to love this woman all your life, and even
keep her by your side, you have to decide to be the
right man to her. By this, I do not mean to say you
have to change drastically into something else and
not being yourself anymore. Trust me, if you are not
being yourself, no women would ever want to be with
you. Women love honest, trustworthy, and committed
men.
One of my clients whom I have worked with
previously has this to say: "If you are happy with
the way I have done something, just tell me so,
don't pretend to be happy just to please me or
pacify me. And don't pretend to be something which
you are not!" To be the right and true man, you just
have to understand what women want, and give it to
her! There is one immortal truth of life I would
like to share with you, and it is this: If you want
to influence any persons (including your love
interest) to your way of thinking, and to your way
of doing things, give them what THEY want!
3) Women love romance more than what you think
Your woman loves romance, and she wants romance
more than you think she wants! To be romantic and
sensitive to her needs and wants is something which
will come naturally to most men during the courting
and wooing phase of their relationship with a woman.
During this period when he wants a woman badly, he
will want to do anything and everything to win over
her heart. He is eager to find out what turns her
on, her likes and dislikes, and what exactly will
attract her. So, what does a man usually do? He will
try to be attractive for the the women of their
life! He never stops dating and courting her, giving
her unexpected surprises, making her jump and squeak
with delight. In addition, he will try very, very
hard not to do anything which will turn her off, or
which will not please her.
The truth is, your woman is still looking for
romance and your pampering, even after both of you
have reached the 'steady' phase in a relationship.
Thus, your woman can never get tired of more romance
and attention from you, especially if she really
love you. Bear this in mind.
4) Women put Love her Number One priority
"But she is so unreasonable", "She is too
controlling and manipulative. She always wants to
find out my whereabouts. Who does she think she is?
A detective?", "She is so damanding, wanting me to
call her every single hour of the day, and if I'm
late, or I've forgotten to call, I've to watch
out!". These are often the common complaints made by
many frustrated men who cannot seem to figure out
what is going on in their relationship. If you find
yourself in similar situation, here is a solution
for you. First, you have to understand women think
and behave very differently from men. You would not
be able to change anyone, including her, just as she
cannot change you. It's not within our power to
control or change another person. However, you can
try to understand your woman, and know why she
thinks and behaves as she does. With your newfound
knowledge of this woman, you'll be able to
strategise and know what to say and how to react
with the objective of bringing more harmony and
peace to your relationship.
For now, just try to understand that once women
get into a relationship, she will put Love her
Number One priority. Whatever she does, no matter
how she says it, it is because YOU are her number
one priority right now! This is how she sees love
and defines love. If she wants you to call, that's
because she wants to know that you are thinking of
her, and that she is loved. So, what you can do is,
if you say you will call 3 hours later, mean it, and
don't make excuses or deny if you forget all about
it. It means a lot to her. If you cannot make the
call during that point in time, make it a point to
let her know, or text her a message to say it is
inconvenient for you to call. If you take it
lightly, and can't be bothered to call, guess what
will happen? She will be sitting at home feeling
miserable and frustrated, thinking whether you
really love her and care enough to keep your
promise, and very likely she will end up wondering
if there is something very wrong with HERSELF!
The factors leading to a relationship or marriage
break-up are often not because of the differences
between men and women. It is your attitude and
methods of treating these differences that matter.
If you will put in the heart and soul to really
understand your woman, and BE the solution, you will
be able to save your breaking relationship. To
create a long-lasting and harmonious relationship or
marriage, patience, tolerance, and perserverance are
the keys.
