You don't need a guitar, rock-hard abs, or even a
full head of hair to make a great impression on a
woman.
Follow these tips, and she’ll
want to hear from you again real soon:
1. Go out with another woman
If you’re going out to a club or a bar, take a
female friend or your sister with you. Women are
often more amenable to talking to men who are with
other women. It gives them the feeling that you
actually like women, and that’s attractive. If your
female friend is outgoing, see if she’ll make small
talk with somebody you’d like to meet. She can say
something along the lines of, “I love your
necklace!” and that should do it. After a little
back-and-forth, your friend can say, “Oh, how rude
of me. This is my friend Andy,” and you’re in
business.
2. Look women in the eye
It seems elementary, but you’d be surprised at
how many guys either undress a woman with their eyes
or avoid eye contact altogether. Women love it when
you look them in the eye.
3. Don’t try to "buy" her
If you buy her a drink, she is obligated to say
thank you and that’s it. If she accepts the drink,
the polite thing for her to do would be to spend a
little time talking to you, but that’s all. On the
other hand, if a woman takes the drink and walks
away, let her go. You wouldn’t want spend time with
her, anyway. Trust me.
4. Find out her interests
Get her talking about what she’s crazy about,
whether it’s David Bowie or the New York Mets. If
you don’t get it, you can say something like, “You
know, I’m not too familiar with Bowie. What CD would
you recommend?” Or, “I’m more into football than
baseball. What is it about baseball that you like?”
Ask a woman her opinion, and you’ll have her eating
out of your hand (we have more in common with guys
than you think).
5. Listen more, talk less
Hey, I’m not suggesting that you let her do all
the talking, but some guys meet a woman and then
never shut up. Don’t try to impress her! Don’t brag
about your GPA at Harvard, the Jag in your driveway,
or the fact that you’re CEO of a tuna fish
conglomerate. You’ll get precisely the kind of woman
you don’t want, the one who’s only into you for your
achievements and possessions, rather than for who
you really are. Instead, ask questions and listen
for the answers. Give your opinions. Get to know the
woman. Let her get to know you.
6. Be optimistic
In other words, this is no time to discuss how
oil prices are going through the roof, what a witch
your ex-girlfriend was, or that your parents never
gave you enough attention. If you run out of things
to talk about, ask her if she’s seen the latest hit
at the box office.
7. Be chaste
Do not try to go to bed with a woman right away.
Sure, there’s a chance that if you go for it, she
will, but if you’re hoping for a lasting
relationship, you set up all sorts of weirdness if
you “do it” too soon. Crazy as it sounds, if she
sleeps with you, she may not respect you in the
morning (you didn’t know that, did you?). She’ll
figure that you get into bed with every woman you
meet, which pretty much rules you out as boyfriend
material. (Or she may be the type who thinks you owe
her because she slept with you, which makes her
really bad girlfriend material.) Save yourself undue
angst and get to know a person before getting into
bed with her.
8. Make a great exit
If you want to see her again, ask for her number
(preface this with something casual, "Maybe we can
get together some time."). Then touch her shoulder
(a little restraint is sexier here; don’t try to
kiss her) and tell her you’ll be in touch. Then
leave. If your friends aren’t ready to go yet, tell
her you have to hang out with them. Walk away. The
key here is to keep her wanting more.
9. Call her
If you said you were going to call, you can avoid
looking desperate by waiting two days, but no
longer. A plea on behalf of the female sex: If
you’re not interested in a woman, do not—I repeat—do
not say you’ll call. Say, "Nice meeting you," and be
on your way. Besides, collecting numbers to feed
your ego is kind of sad.
10. Treat women as you’d have them treat you
The media have brainwashed us to believe that men
and women come from different planets, but we’re all
human. Some of the biggest losers in love are women
who complain that all men are the same, they all
want one thing, and so on. But it’s equally sad when
a guy assumes all women are like his mother or his
psychopathic ex-girlfriend. You’ll enjoy astonishing
success with women if you understand two simple
facts: We're people. We're more like you than you
think.
