Have
you noticed that your husband or boyfriend is
paying less and less time with you and more time
with work or his hobbies? It's perfectly fine to
feel a little insecure when he starts focusing
on other things, but that doesn't mean that he
doesn't love you. Usually, when a guy starts
switching his attention away from the
relationship to things like work or hobbies it
is because he feels secure in his relationship.
Most guys have the "if it's not broken, then
don't fix it" attitude.
Right now, he just feels that there is no issue
that the relationship needs all of his
attention. What you want to do is have a talk
about ways that you can spend more time together
or you can simply seek more of his attention out
with subtle hints. The only thing is that you
don't want to sound demanding or clingy.
When it comes to talking to your man, you will
want to avoid sounding demanding. If you push
him and there is nothing wrong, to him, in the
relationship, he will start to get defensive.
Don't sound like you don't trust him, or that
you don't appreciate him. If it is work that is
getting in the way of you two men take their
jobs very seriously. In fact, a job, to a man,
defines who he is.
If you begin to get all demanding he feel like
you don't appreciate all the work that he does,
which he'll say he does it for you. Most of the
time, you will find that if the man is too
evolved in work it is because he wants to better
his position, better his life, and better the
relationship too. However there are many ways
that you can take control of the situation. When
you do any of the following make sure that you
think about how your boyfriend/husband will
feel. You don't any to alienate or seem
demanding or clingy.
1) First, you may want to spice up the relationship in the bedroom.
If you have noticed that you both seem to be bored
in the bedroom, one of the partners will usually
pull away from those types of situations. You can
spice up the relationship by being more aggressive,
take more of a part, and upping the romance and
attraction in a relationship.
2) You may want to stop by the office just to say "Hi".
See him at the office every now and then when
you can so that you can let him know that you
still care. If you pop in the office and ask him
out to lunch, he'll love the fact that you have
taken time out from your busy schedule to stop
by.
3) Start dressing sexier.
If you start wearing a pushup bra or show some
cleavage, he'll notice. If you dress in colors that
he loves and start wearing more slinky, short
dresses, he'll definitely notice. This is one of the
quickest ways to get his attention.
4) You will also start wanting to be less available.
When you aren't there for him when he needs you,
he's going to start paying more attention to you so
he can bring you back into his life more. However,
don't be too unavailable because you may lose this
game, however, if you begin to tease by making them
wait to check your schedule for a date, he'll get
the picture.
5) Another way to get his attention is teasing
plainly.
If you go in for a kiss and then change your
mind, if you flirt more, he'll become more attracted
to you and you'll have his attention a lot more.
6) Not only should you dress sexier, but also
you should walk and talk with confidence.
When you are confident and seem so happy and
flirtatious, you are more likely to catch his
attention. If you walk around sort of mellow and not
really, into the morning, he'll not pick up on you,
however, if you begin to walk around like you own
the place, well his attention will be caught because
he'll notice the change and he'll be attracted by
it. Confidence is a turn on.
7) Not only should you spice up the bedroom with
a new routine, but you will also want to work on
your foreplay.
You will want to think about when you were in
high school, or maybe in the beginning of the
relationship, and you were so passionate in your
kissing and foreplay. If you can bring that back,
he'll start coming home early and he'll bring to
spend more time with you.
8) Start doing things just for him.
Like cook dinner (or order take out and pretend
that you cooked it) for him in a romantic setting.
This will give you the full attention and then you
can do something to keep the relationship
interesting and moving forward.
9) What will really get his attention is if you
backed off the whole baby or marriage conversation.
Many of the times when a man plunges himself in
work it's to avoid such topics. Just one day not
mention it. In fact, back off for a while on the
subject. If he brings up, you guys are ready for
that step, but men don't like to be hassled by
topics that women seem to focus on. He'll notice the
change and either appreciates it and come back to
focusing on you or he'll initiate a talk.
10) Bluntly, ask about the relationship.
As soon as you say, "I think we should talk?" in
a mature and serious tone, guys know it's about
the relationship and they will participate in a
talk. This will allow him to know how you feel
about him spending so much time away from you
and he'll tell you why, and this will help you
set all the insecurities aside so that the
passion can be brought back to the relationship.
