There
are many things that women wish that guys knew, but
will never tell them. The problem is that if the
girl has to tell the guy, it will ruin the
relationship. For guys, this seems like an
impossible position - "she knows what she wants, but
won't tell me". Here are the top ten things that
women wish guys knew.
1. Lead
Women won't tell men that they want them to lead,
because just having to say it means that the guy
does not lead. A leader does not need permission;
they take the risk and just do it.
2. Ask her advice
This may seem contradictory to number 1, but it
is not. Women want men to lead, but they want to be
part of their lives and they want to be respected.
The best way that to accomplish both of these is for
the guy to decide what they want to do, tell her,
then ask for her opinion.
3. Women choose guys on how they make them feel.
Any guy who can make a girl feel appreciated,
protected and cherished is on his way to winning her
heart.
4. Make her laugh!
Don't take life too seriously. It can be tough
being a woman. There are many roles to play -
daughter, sister, wife and many goals to meet -
good-looking, thin, coordinated clothing, etc. Give
her a break! If a guy can show her that she does not
have to be perfect to be accepted, he will be an
unusual guy and she will love him for it.
5. Hold the door
Its something that women's upbringing may tell
them is not needed - after all she is independent,
but women will usually like it anyway. Guys do not
have to knock her down to get to the door first
every time, but getting in the habit of opening
doors when he can is a good thing.
6. Never start a conversation with an apology
"Excuse me", "Sorry to bother you". She may think
the guy is polite, but he is violating rule number
1.
7. If a guy is in a loving relationship, hold
hands!
It shows that he cares for her and that he is not
afraid of showing it in front of others. She will
never tell him, but if he does it, he will have a
happier life.
8. Call Her!
After every date, call her within a few days.
Email, voicemail and text messaging do not count.
Calling her as soon as he gets back to the apartment
may be too soon, but any time later will be OK.
9. Even if she asks for the absolute truth, be
careful about criticizing her appearance.
If a guy builds a fence around the back yard and
asks a woman, "What do you think?" he does not want
her to check the plumb on every post and let him
know how he might improve his fence building! He
wants her to say that it looks good! Same with her
appearance. Guys, be very careful of how you answer!
10. Be passionate about something -in addition
to her.
This goes back to leadership. Men should have a
sense of what they want to accomplish and how they
are going to do it. Share your dreams and plans with
her. This is one area where it is OK for guys to
talk about something at some length. Even if she
does not share his dream, she will respect him for
having one.
It is one of the problems in dating, that there
are things that most women want and expect in a man
that not all men understand. The rules of dating and
behavior are being constantly rewritten and can seem
confusing. The rules above have withstood the test
of time and are as valid today as they were 200
years ago.
