Look
around the (online dating) web and you will notice
that the online dating scene is a lot focused on
single Russian women and other East European women.
The reason that in particular women from these
countries are looking for a foreign partner is
generally known, but will not be discussed in this
article. But I do like to give you some tips when
you must NOT dating or contacting Russian women.
Let me give you 6 valuable tips:
Tip 1
If you are a single man and you don't want to be
single anymore then you probably already are using
the Internet as a source to find a new partner. But
fun dating, chatting and "playing around" with
people from your own culture or country is something
different then being determined to find specific a
Russian woman with the one and only purpose: to
marry her. This means traveling to Russia (to meet
her), possible language barrier, learning about the
Russian (women) culture, be prepared for unexpected
situations, like money expenses, possible scam
situations (if you are looking in the wrong places)
and many more.
If you are not convinced about yourself that this
is all worth for you, then don't start dating or
contacting Russian women. A serious looking Russian
woman who is a formal member of a serious
established agency has already prepared herself
before she decides to register herself as a possible
candidate for serious looking single men from all
over the world. She is not looking for pen pals or
everlasting month's of email correspondence, no she
is looking for a life partner with one main purpose:
to build a happy family.
Tip 2
If you think that register yourself at some
dubious free dating site would be enough to present
yourself as a serious looking single man, who is
looking for a serious marriage minded Russian woman
with the expectation that many women will contact
you first, then don't start to find your future
Russian wife in these places, because you will not
find them here. These kind of sites can be fun of
course, but are also hotbeds for possible scammers.
Believe me, I have unfortunately a lot of
experience with men who started at the wrong places.
Be smart and take a huge head-start by avoiding
these places.
Tip 3
There are people who register themselves in men's
catalogs with photographs as if they are looking
like "Tarzan's" or use photo's only wearing swimming
shorts, just to impress young good looking ladies.
And write a biography using 3 lines like "Hello, my
name is name , I am a single man looking for a young
beautiful woman who also likes music, going out,
having fun and drive fast cars, if you are
interested, then please write me back"
If you identify yourself with that kind of
persons, then don't contact or try to impress
Russian women in such way. Russian women are not
looking for Brad Pitt look-alikes or muscles like
Sylvester Stallone. They are not judging "looks" at
all, and you will find out why if you take the
trouble to do this the right way.
Tip4
If you think Russian women are looking for any
(western) man just because you think they are
looking for a new country, a better life, a wealthy
man, no matter if he is 20 years older than she is,
then please keep on dreaming. They just seek
compatible partners for long term-relationships and
marriage and want to love and be loved, that's all
no more, no less!
Tip 5
If you don't have a regular job or (enough)
income or don't have a house/apartment (rent or
owned) big enough to live with a family, or if you
have any serious criminal records (I am not talking
about non paid parking tickets), then don't try to
bring a Russian woman into your country. You will
not succeed. Not because of my personal advise which
has nothing to do with this, but because of the
strict regulations, procedures and rules that are
imposed by the authorities when you have the
intention to immigrate a Russian woman into your
country. Please advise the official USCIS website by
yourself:
http://uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/fiance.htm
Tip 6
If you think, that when she finally joins you in
your country, you can start living your "normal"
life again and if you think she is capable enough to
find her own way in your (for her) strange country,
to find at once a job, to teach herself your
language and find by herself new friends and if you
think she should be "thankful" that you have "pulled
her out" her poor mafia controlled and corrupted
country, then don't start even thinking about
contacting a Russian woman. At least the first
month's she will need extra support from you to
settle herself with you as a "just married"
husband-and-wife couple and she has to adjust to
your country (customs), your culture, your language,
your friends, your colleague's, your shops, your
train and bus schedule, your etc. and that takes
time and patience from both of you.
But my (western) husband and I can assure you:
It's all worth it!
Please do not think I am some weird arrogant
Russian woman and do understand that I am certainly
not trying to discourage you to "date" Russian
women, on the contrary, I only want to give you some
serious tips about the things that really won't
work.
Short note about the author
My name is Irina Sbitneva.
In 2000 I met my husband online at a dating
site. I used to live in Russia. I was one of the
many Russian women who was looking for a life
partner and my husband was one of the many men who
was doing the same. And now we both live for already
5 years happily in The Netherlands. From that time
we started an information site with the purpose to
help other's. The articles I publish is one way to
help others to succeed find a Russian woman to
marry.
